Maryland Department of Human Services

Literally the worst.

On March 20th 2019 I was at the Office of Child Support Enforcement in Rockville MD. We have two daughters (3 years and 18 months). He has been paying for our eldest daughter's daycare and a court ordered “maintenance fee” because I have sole custody.

My case was handled by Steven Mellenger who tells us that I should not get child support for daycare because I do not work. I am a full-time student completing my bachelors in the Fall. This is one of the reasons the eldest is in daycare.

Mr. Mellenger keeps telling my husband to stop paying for daycare because he is not require to do so - it is only “work related daycare”.
He tells me "you are trying to MILK him”.
We are sent to see Judge Susan Polis but instead we meet a man in suit and tie who wont tell us who he is - he just walks in and tells my husband to pay the minimum. When I ask questions he tells me “SHHHH - I do the talking”
He tells us that we are going to sign this document saying that I agree that my husband will only pay X amount going forward or else drop the case. I found out later that this man is Mr. Christopher J. Kunz, Special Counsel, Montgomery County. I drop the case.

I opened a formal complaint on March 22nd and I did get a follow up call a few days later. She mentions that Mr. Mellenger had included “she is trying o=to milk him” in his official records from march 20th. I continue filing the complaint but have not heard back since.

This is not a personal issue, this is part of a structured racial agenda that pulls out and destroys minority families from the roots. Thats the reason that there's two sides of town: the suburbs and the HOOD. For decades young children who grow up in these sadder parts of town watch their mothers at the Child Support Enforcement Office running after 'baby daddies'- seeing their fathers run away from any responsibility because these men, they grow up without their fathers too. After decades and generations have passed this becomes their reality.
I am not from the hood, I’m an immigrant who grew up in a very stable family and when I came to the US 'legally' I settled down in the suburbs. This is why my husband was already paying for our eldest daughters daycare but the Child Support Office and the ‘Special Council’ ask him to STOP paying.

It’s just another father who is made unaccountable for his own child. He will then lose that bond, become separated from his own children because he is not raising them, not providing for them, pretty soon losing focus because that drive inside that makes you want to work hard to give your kids a good life - thats gone. Instead of having an able-bodied man work hard and provide for his children, you remove that connection and then eventually the mother will have to turn to welfare.
But what really happens to the mothers? Personally, I’ll keep going to school I'll do whatever I have to do because I want to give my children a better life and I want them to see hard work.
But how about the others who see this as their reality?
Mothers who grew up surrounded by communities setup this way that see it as the norm? They will quit have to quit school and find a minimum wage job for $9? No future beyond welfare, stuck in circle enforced by those who are supposed to help. Thats the plan.
I have reached out to SO MANY people this past couple of weeks, policy makers, organizations.. no one is shocked.. they know this is happening. It’s been amusing at times because this past month was “Women's History Month”- so they have all these posts and pictures saying 'Celebrate Women'- and here's a woman telling you that she's been treated very unfairly and it seems that this is happening only to a group of people.. but, no one will budge?

slow

I called about not receiving my open enrollment packet and some how got transferred from DBM to DHS and connected to Mr. L. Glose. His department has absolutely nothing to do with open enrollment or open enrollment packets or dealing with retired employees, however he took the time to talk to me, advice me he has not yet received his yet either, that open enrollment has been extended to the end of November. He even took his time at the end of his day to give me the website address for the DBM where I can verify the new closing date for open enrollment and see all the material in the open enrollment packet.

Staff worked hard to help me get some answers from a system that can be convoluted by state and federal regulations. Child Support Ombudsman was very helpful.